Unleash yourself from false parameters.
I always joke that if I were a dog, I would need a big yard, somewhere along the lines of needing a fence or a leash so that I would have boundaries. Typically, I was referencing my positioning in relationships, give me my freedom, and I’ll give you respect. What I’m learning is that in places where we have no “master,” we still find ourselves within restrictions that don’t exist.
My life is evolving faster than ever now, and I find myself in moments of self-doubt. I question my value and capabilities. In the hair world, I have a Ph.D., but to the modern world, I’m viewed as a salesperson. They don’t see management, ownership, or my advanced skills at commanding an audience and facilitating a classroom or my ability to operate a salon, mentor, and coach a team while meeting retail and service goals. So naturally, when approached by individuals who see more in me, I wonder if they have the right girl.
Parameters: a measurable factor that defines a system or sets the conditions of its operation.
I’m climbing the corporate ladder now without a piece of paper but a faith big enough to jump off the side of the building and know the team behind me is going to catch me. Empowerment can be so strong, which is why it’s so important to surround yourself with individuals who believe in you, will pour into you, and, most importantly, will push you.
Although my career is about to fly high, I have to be mindful of relationships as well. I feel sometimes honest people automatically want to serve people with respect they don’t deserve or haven’t earned, and it causes false boundaries as well. We have one life to live, and we can’t always put the ball in someone else’s court. Remember to protect your heart first, see people’s intentions, and do what is best for you in the long run. If it’s friends or significant others, we have to be accountable for allowing the opportunities we miss out on because of someone else’s feelings or opinions.
This girl has no limits. I set my standards, write my own rules, and navigate the paths I’m walking . People will try to steal your dreams and speak negativity into your life if you let them, and the power we give to people can be the the same power we need to take steps we have never walked before. Don’t let the world be the weight that prevents you from taking greater leaps. I am Rhea...I’ve been unleashed.